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Is divorce worth it (own happiness vs family life)
An office romance that spilled over into pregnancy, which led to a wedding, (it seemed happiness was in the hands) A daughter, a year of experience in family life, showing the wrong side of relationships ... Lack of mutual understanding, difference of interests (he is motorcycles, books, TV shows, friends, board games, preference in music - rock and ambient) (she is the absence of bad habits, loves the clone series and twilight ... hates rock, friends and any genres of music and films except pop and the films described above) He - wants to live in the pleasure of knowing the world, the joy of friends, travel ... She - puts before a choice - or we are with my daughter and you are in a complete limited family prison (an hour late from work - scandal, sat down at the computer - scandal, caught rock on the radio in the car (favorite song does not channel) - scandal "History is silent about the possibility of going even to a birthday party with close friends. She considers all his friends to be alcoholics and failed personalities. Life takes place in his apartment. Only he earns ... There are only two pluses in family life, in his opinion - good sex, and wonderful child. Everything else does not bring not the slightest drop of joy. I don't want to go home after work. He cannot refuse her for fear of losing his daughter, or that she will have another father. He is terribly unhappy .. That's my story. and how would you do it?
Answers:
Mary Rua
Why is there no mention of an alternative? Are there common interests or just freedom from family obligations?
Just one little kiss
Something I doubt that sex with her is good.
Gaponchik
Ummm ... And what did you, dear, think ... when they made a child?) and do not exaggerate family life)))
✿ Romashka_Begemotovna ✿
I would put all the longings over III)))
Artyom Volkov
I would not be in a hurry to leave, especially with a child without a job. And he goes to friends alone, and you watch TV shows at home? Difficult situation, do not rely on the opinions of others. Think for yourself, not everything is so bad for you.
Daughter of the Samurai
in-in, an accurate description of my first year of family life. Well this is a typical family crisis of the first year. read on the internet. I, thank God, resisted, the relationship passed the test, which is what I wish you
**Chief's Daughter**
I’ll tell you a terrible secret: many people live like this)) but why is everyone?)) because BOTH are selfish and don’t like each other))) and don’t go to the shaman))
green bull
There is a woman in prison, not a man. He sits for days with a child, even going to the store is hard to get out. And the peasant, you see, wanted freedom, how, after coming home from work, they don’t let them sit at the computer, and they don’t take a walk with friends. Your poor wife, and you are an egoist.
NeomarHayam
First year, then three years, then seven. These are crisis years for marriage, they say. The fact is that we were somehow poorly prepared for family life. We know how to live in it only from the example of our parents. They only lived happily ever after in the cinema ... And this is almost a science, on the verge of philosophy, psychology, religion, economics, etc. Not you, not she, simply do not know how to do it. There are options when everything is a hop and everything is fine at once, but these are exceptions. Be wiser and think about how to arrange normal relationships, how to set boundaries for what is permitted, how to protect them, how to love, how to educate, etc.
Daragan Alyonka
I understand your position, but on the other hand, try to look at the situation from her point of view. She is also an unhappy woman who is deprived of your attention. You come home from work, and she, sitting in front of the TV, dreams of you coming up and just at least talking to her. But you prefer to sit down at the computer or go to drink beer with friends. No, this is not family slavery. You just became a family man and that's different. Your friends are your friends and they will never replace your wife and child, the people who should be the most precious and valuable in your life. With the advent of the child, her life has become even more difficult, because she gives all her time and herself to him, so as not to miss the moment in education. She also has girlfriends and interests of her own. I think you need to get a divorce, because if such thoughts arise on your part, then you simply do not love her. From the very beginning you were not ready for a family and now it weighs on you. The worst thing is to live with a person you don’t love because of a stupid mistake in the past, which means you need to solve this problem before it’s too late. I would like to add that Zelenaya byaka is right, but she expressed herself with a tougher answer. Your point of view is really selfish.
Andrey
Many people want to receive Love, thinking little about how they know how to GIVE. Many people want to receive care, affection, attention, support, fidelity and sex, BUT not everyone knows that EVERYTHING IS NOT LOVE YET. When one person takes another person into his heart ONLY in order to warm him there with OWN warmth of the heart - this is Love. He warms a person not in order to get something, but gives warmth disinterestedly without even hoping for a reward. If he gives his Love and waits, demands or asks for a reward, then giving a person had self-interest and he gave selfishly, and he got what he deserves. Do you have loved ones...
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